my son is 15 years old is morbidly obese (he is 5’7" and weighs 366 pounds). he has always been a skinny, active kid growing up. he started dramatically gaining weight when he was around 11 years old. last month i took him to wal-greens to have him take a sports physical and conditioning test so he could enter this years football season. he failed both the physical and the conditioning test and was not given permission to play football. and said he was at a very high risk for type 2 diabetes. i was really hoping he could play football this year so he could do some excersize over the summer. i know its my fault he is over 300 pounds, and i feel even worse that we let it happen when both my husband and i are thin, but instead of dwelling on the past im going to into the future. so i decided he needs to change so i started only cooking healthy meals, i removed all the junk food, in our home, put the parental lock on the TV and bought him a treadmill and told him he has to run on the treadmill one hour everyday and i would weigh him every week to see his progress. when the month started he was 330 pounds and like i said now hes 366 pounds. i was appauled he gained 36 pounds in a month. i asked him if he was cheating on his diet or not doing his excersizes, but he told me he was doing them and doesn’t know why hes gaining weight. a few days ago i decided i would go home for my lunch break and when i got home i saw my son was sleeping and there was 3 XL pizza boxes, 4 big mac boxes and a bag of dorritos around him. i came too late cause he had finished everything. i woke him up and asked what were the food came from, and he confessed that everyday for the past month his father had been buying multiple amounts of fast food everyday. i got in to an argument with my husband on why he was giving him food and he felt bad that i was putting him on a diet so he bought him junk food he even had the nerve to say "i decided to feed him good food not that health crap you give him and what are you mad about its not like im giving him drugs". i asked my son if he himself wanted to lose weight and he just replied " i really dont care, im happy with who i am, im getting good grades, i have a girl friend, and my life is going fine, the only reason why i am doing this cause your making me." iv tried to motivate my son in every way to lose weight but nothing has worked. iv even used his GF as an example to motivate him. she used to be very obese herself, but last time i saw her she looked much thinner and she told me she had been dieting and excersizing and had already lost 50 pounds, i complimented her on how good she looked and was telling my son that she should lose weight with her. i love my son with all my heart and im really worried about him and i just want what is best for him, but i cant make him lose weight he needs to want to also. how can i motivate him.
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LOCO - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
First of all it is not you as a parents fault. Putting fault on anyone right now will not change the situation. You and your husband are fit and usually that passes down from Generation to generation. I used to be extremely skinny and in Basic training my Drill Sergeants tried overfeeding me to get me to gain weight. I lost weight. I was deployed etc and was very skinny. When I returned home I blew up 100 lbs more than what I previously weighed.
I started taking something for Anxiety after the war called seraquel which causes weight gain and maybe even Diabetes. WHY? Well you see at first they thought the drug just increases appetite. When actually it causes the pancreas to over produce insulin which lowers your blood sugar. Your body then naturally craves the foods that give it sugar. Bottom line I came of the meds. I started using something called Niacin (Vitamin B3 or Vitamin B Complex) for mood and anxiety and dropped almost all the weight. I changed Diet to healthy foods I loved. I eat 6 small meals a day.
However, it was not with out the exercise. I walk everyday, just walking and have been doing so for about 2 years. I eat well now and cheat at least once a week. Diets are there to say you cant eat something. The thing is you have to change how you eat. Not diet. I enjoy cheeseburgers and junk food once a week and if I do more I just keep to the exercise. To tighten the ab area up i do P90x Ab ripper work out and nothing else. Its 15 minutes and I don’t even finish half the time. I have a pull up bar that i use frequently during the day. I will pass and see how many pull ups I can do. Sometimes its 3 sometimes its 10 sometimes none cause i’m busy.
I have lost almost 100 lbs by getting it in my head that I can eat whatever I want, but there are consequences. So i eat things I love I have chips made from Vegetables. I snack on banana chips and exercise. I realize that it also took a while to put the weight on and it will take a while to take it off.
Alissa Cullen - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
jump up a bit every time he sits on the sofa, or offer to exercise and diet with him if that doesn’t work
katie - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
im not sure if you are trolling but if i was you i would tell him he will live a shorter weight. he isn’t just chubby, he isn’t just fat, he is MORBIDLY OBESE.
Nick Wilson - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
tell him he’s gonna die and it’s not worth it over food.
show him some documentaries about overweight people e.g. half ton teen.
sorry about the death thing, but if he’s 366 pounds in his teens, deaths where he’s heading :/
DM - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
Why are YOU not leading by example?
Where did the pizza and crap come from? He got the money from somewhere.
DO the exercises with him if you are concerned it’s not getting done.
Take him to the doctors and a nutritionist for evaluation and guidance.
It’s up to you MOM (and DAD) to work with your child to teach him by example how things go.
JerryJ - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
Whoa! Ever hear of paragraphs? No one will read that blob of text.
I suggest seeing a psychiatrist to help. Also consult with a doctor because when you’re that much overweight you have to be careful.
Ooga Booga - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
just tell him fit people get ahead in the world. I know it sounds fucked up but its true excuse my language =P I mean look, you don’t see many obese lawyers or presidents or physiologist or nurses/doctors. I know it sounds messed up but its true. I’m fifteen and used to be pretty big and I slimed down and realized all that this is true
Trixilicious T8 - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
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dragon chica - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
get him to watch the Doctors!!! its on at 10 am, and 3pm, i think….the lady from biggest Loosers will will be joining them for the next season, and she’s gives awesome (and scary) motivation. one of the coming up episodes will be showing her giving motivation to a mom and son in your same position, though the son is younger…Anyway, she pops up in many episodes now, though the motivation one that i’m talking about doesn’t pop up till next season. still, she gives awesome workouts.
try these two websites: http://teens.sparkpeople.com/myspark/nutrition.asp
http://www.freetrainers.com/FT/jsp/Nutrition.jsp
the first one to actually track your calorie intake, and how many calories burned through exercise. the second one gives you actual calorie and other nutritional requirements to reach your goals, as well as a proper workout regimen to gain muscles. (for the first site, you’ll enter the running on the treadmill, and the other cardio…not the workout from the other site).
have him enter in the info, and make sure you know the password so that you can keep an eye on it each day (for both sites) maybe you could pay him a few dollars for each day that he does….? maybe a $.50 for every week entered, and 3 bucks for every week that he reaches his goals? (you need to give him something for entering the days in at all, otherwise he wont do even that.)
i wish you, and your son, the best of luck! and remember: higher intensity exercises burns more fat, as lower intensity exercises cause the body to burn carbohydrates first. try getting him into aerobic moves while holding dumbells of at least 3 pounds—it depends on how much he can lift without accidentally dropping them. now might be a good time to get a free trial for Netflix, or even a full version, as there are good workout vids there. try googling "aerobics". he might not be all that big on some of them, because many are hosted by woman…but the "crunch: bootcamp" one is truly intimidating!!! good luck!
Eric - said
August 26 2011 @ 04:33
give him more options and do things with him, like riding your bike around with him or exercizing with him, that was like me, not very active and stong, my dad rode his bike with me and now i can go 2 miles no sweat and it try to ride my bike as much as i can