My boyfriend is pretty young and is weighing in around 240-245. When we met last year, he was pretty fit.. not buff or anything, but not fat. Since we’ve met, he’s balooned. He’s growing in height too, so you’d think it would stretch out, but because he’s growing and eating so much, he’s just getting really fat. It’s all going to his boobs and stomach too. Not looking good. I used to not mind, but now it’s grossing me out. So. We both cook, I’ve been trying to cook healthier recently. We both have the same gym membership, but I just had surgery and can’t go (I used to lug him along with me). He says he’s too busy to go to the gym right now, and he probably is. How do I tell him in a nice way (instead of… "You’re getting fat, time to go to the gym.") that he’s gaining too much weight. He knows its there and is even a bit self conscience about it but isn’t doing much. He loves junk food. I’ll try to wean him off that, but how do I get him to loose the fat?!?
Oh wow I forgot to mention this. His family has really bad history with cholesterol.
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allisonicole - said
December 23 2010 @ 21:30
I haven’t ever been in this situation, so I can’t directly relate. However, my boyfriend has a bit of a gut. He doesn’t drink, so it’s not like a beer belly or anything like that. At first it didn’t seem to bother him, but then he started commenting about it more and saying how he wanted to lose it. So what he did was find something that he enjoyed for exercise. In his case, it was WiiFit (which really is so much fun!). He does 30 minutes to an hour on it daily, and I could see the results in as soon as one week! He looks amazing, and he’s still working on it. It’s understandable that your boyfriend might not have time to drive to and from a gym regularly, but maybe there’s something he could do around the house for exercise, even if it’s just 30 minutes a day. Yard work, going for a walk, lifting weights, etc. Maybe you could sit down with him and say that you want to start eating healthier (whether or not that is true, since it sounds like you are trying to cook healthy meals as it is) and would like to eliminate junk food from the house. It sounds like you’re pretty adamant about going to the gym. Perhaps you could make a schedule with him? That way, when you are healed from surgery, you can do it together, side by side. You might not need to lose weight, but offering him support and encouragement will help him drastically. Good luck!
JOE - said
December 23 2010 @ 21:30
If you love him, you shouldn’t care as long as he is happy. If it getting so bad that he may be harming his health, then you can tell him.
qlteacher - said
December 23 2010 @ 21:30
Are you telling him to detach the weight from his body as in a knot, or are you asking him to lose weight? There is a difference in those two words. And if you are not happy with him, express it. However, I must inform you or ask you to really look at yourself first. Are you a supermodel or somewhat hot. We have this picture of perfection or what we perceive as perfection, but where do you fit in your own equation. Love the person for who they are, not how they look. Remember looks fade, character is forever.
♥sexymama♥ - said
December 23 2010 @ 21:30
say hun your getting a little over weight do u want to work out together or something???
Popchick - said
December 23 2010 @ 21:30
Wow, thats a good question.
Well, you probably should just say nicely, why don’t we go see a nutrienist, they can help you lose weight healthiely. When you get better from the surgeory, go with him to the gym and support him. Clean out your kitchen of all junk food and unhealthy things.
pamsnewone - said
December 23 2010 @ 21:30
I WOULD START THE CONVERSATION THAT YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT HIS HEALTH, ESPECIALLY IF HE HAS A FAMILY HISTORY OF HEART ATTACKS OR STROKES, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE. TELL HIM THAT YOU LOVE HIM SO MUCH THAT YOU DO NOT DESERVE HAVING TO WORRYING ABOUT HIM AND WHAT HE IS HEADING FOR IF HE DOES NOT TAKE BETTER CARE OF HIS SELF LIKE HE ONCE DID.
WHAT IF IT WAS YOU, WHAT DO YOU THINK HE WOULD DO AND HOW WOULD HE HANDLE IT?