I don’t want to preach to him anymore and it doesn’t work anyway. I live in a different state but fly back to where he lives 3x’s a year. I cook healthy meals, bought a bp kit, had my grandson go jogging with me. My dil cooks fattening, starchy food with gobs of butter. I have talked to her about it and says "that’s what your son wants". My son loves fish and healthy food and she won’t cook it for him.My son weighs at least 475 lbs and climbing. I even offered to pay for my son a gym membership or get have gastric by pass surgery? He won’t take me up on my offer unfortunately. My grandson is overeating and following in his dad’s steps. I love them both. Now my dil is starting to get o/w now too.Before my son married her he was 6’2" 170lbs and played football.I want only the very best for them. I feel desperate…any good advice would be greatly appreciated.
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opalescent_angel - said
March 5 2010 @ 18:16
I hate to say this but it will not matter how much you brow beat them, nag them or torture them. Until they WANT to change themselves they will not lose weight.
Also, gastric bypass is not a miracle cure. It is a lot of work after the painful surgery.
At this point unless you want to completely alienate them you may want to back off a little bit on the nagging. I know it must be very difficult to watch them ruining themselves like that but if you continue to push they may just say that you are no longer welcome.
Additionally, if your son is over the age of 13 (and I assume he is) he is perfectly capable of using a stove. If he does not like the food she is cooking for him he should take steps to cook his own fresh and less fattening entrees.
winston_lao - said
March 5 2010 @ 18:16
That is hard. give them something to look forward to when they loose there weight and give them something to fear if they get anyworse.
halynr1500 - said
March 5 2010 @ 18:16
Well if you want a funny answer, hang something (food) that they really like on a string, hang it in front of em so they run. But if you want a serious answer – show them what could happen to them if they keep up what their doing.
Hayleigh - said
March 5 2010 @ 18:16
just sit him down and talk to him tel him what mite happen if this obesity continues try and keep engouraging him to do more outdoor sports even if it starts with a walk around the block. every little bit of excersise helps
pepsi_one23 - said
March 5 2010 @ 18:16
I don’t think you should be placing all the blame on your DIL. Your son is eating the foods because he likes them, and they all obviously do. If he really didn’t want the food, he could always go cook himself dinner, or start cooking dinner anyway, to avoid the unhealthy foods she’s making.
I myself am obese. I didn’t get this way because I was raised in a home where they cooked unhealthy foods, I got this way because I like to eat. Likewise, your son didn’t get to 475 lbs just from his wife’s unhealthy cooking.
Gastric bypass poses a lot of risks, and it’s not an easy way out by any means. They have to come to the decision on their own. It takes a lot of hard work and determination, and it sounds like he knows he’s not ready for that at this point in time. He has to realize he has a problem first, before he can work on solving that problem.
kadel - said
March 5 2010 @ 18:16
Pay for them to see a physician who specializes in weight loss