My husband is gaining a lot of weight and he is not doing anything about it.
He complains about it, huffs and puffs when he gets weighed, yet he goes out and buys the worst food possible. I do weekly grocery shopping and I buy a lot of fruit and I put it out so he can see it and reach for it once a while. He does not. More than half of our weekly budget goes to fruits and veggies, and yes, I make sure it all gets eaten either raw or cooked.
I cook healthy meals from scratch and even though he eats them, he still eats junk while at work.
He says he hates water so he replaces it with soft drinks.
He eats cookies, baked goods, orders food etc.
Last night when I saw him, his waist line is expanding and he’s become so lazy. Yes, he works a lot, I get that, but come on. I told him if he doesn’t have time to work out every day, he can at least make the changes when it comes to the kind of food he eats.
I’ve talked to him about this problem many times, he agrees with me that he needs to do something to change, yet he never does anything despite the million tips I’ve given him.
I try to be a good example for him. I work out 6 times a week, I eat really healthy and I don’t eat after 6pm. He comes home from work and aside from what I cooked for dinner, he fries himself a pack of sausages! And he eats this crap at like 9pm.
I wish I can help him somehow. He’s a gorgeous man, his weight doesn’t bother me from an appearance point of view, it really worries me as far as his health goes. He’s gotten so slow, lethargic, and he tells me how miserable he is that he’s gotten so fat. He used to wear designer clothes and the other day he actually went to big n’ tall store to look for pants. He even wants to buy a bigger car because he says our sedan has become too small for him!
Is there anything ANYTHING ANYTHING I can do here to push him to change his lifestyle?
I hate to see him suffer like this, is there anything I can say to him, are there power words I can use? im so desperate here.
@ryde on….My biggest concern is diabetes and that little problem when a person loses his limbs because of it. So shallow or not, I want my 34 husband to live till he’s 84.
You’re a smart dude, I’m sure you’re aware of heart disease and other horrible conditions that come along with obesity.
Been there, don't want to go back - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
You cannot force him. The harder you push the harder he will pull in the other direction.
It sounds a bit like he is depressed. I know this, because before I got married I exercised and ate well. After I got married, due to problems I gained 20 lbs and basically gave up. I’m not saying your marriage is depressing him, it could be anything.
I too lamented about how bad I felt, how I hated the weight gain, buying bigger clothes. Only I could decide to get rid of it. My husband bought a rowing machine, Jillian Austin videos, etc. but unless the will is there it won’t make a difference.
Your husband is degenerating, just like me, so try starting him off slow. Take him for a long walk or bike ride, something easy. Sodas are the worst thing you can put in your body…explain this and see if he’d be willing to compromise with something like Crystal Light in his water if he doesn’t like the taste. He could even try Diet Lemonade…anything but that acid that eats away at your insides.
I broke my own rule – I got to the point where I had to start buying bigger clothes. That is when it becomes a problem. I am now dieting and exercising for summer time.
in the sky how I wonder - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
Next time he complains look him square in the eyes and tell him to stop complaining to you and instead, do something about it. Repeat as needed…
Ryde On - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
You are shallow , you should love him no matter how huge he gets.
MPH - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
No, there’s nothing you can do. Just love him.
kpopp - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
There is very little that you can do. Unless he wants to – in other words unless he is motivated – nothing will happen.
woophil - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
its easy really.just say hey fatty lets go for a run,call at big macs and then go to bed for the afternoon.when he realises it aint going to happen maybe he will do something with his miserable life that he isnt enjoying.dont give up he needs you
Reporter - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
Same problem with my dad.
He got owned by the doctor due to overweight and the Doctor shouted at him saying that he is eating fatty or unhealthy food way too much. From that day, he tries to control his daily food intake.
Paul Taylor - said
April 6 2011 @ 16:33
Could be food addiction. I was depressed a few years ago and starting over eating & drinking. and gained 40 lbs in like 6 months. Took me a year to get it back off. I started eating better smaller portions and my wife & I started doing more physical activities (walking, hiking, biking). He can do it, just needs to get going so it will become routine.