My fiance (soon to be husband) have been attempting to conceive for well over a year. Before I hear that I’m too young, we are in good financial shape and would be capable of raising a child.
The problem is I just can’t seem to get pregnant and actually keep it. Here’s some background information that may or may not be helpful:
On my first pregnancy (not planned) with an ex, I was 17. I made it almost 3 months and miscarried. I made it a little over four months through my pregnancy earlier this year, but miscarried again. This happened at home while he was at work. I’ve of course come out positive many times but have had many extremely early miscarriages. This is a source of intense emotional anguish for me. I’m terrified that I will never be able to give birth and have been through more than my fair share of losses.
Now about myself- I’m 5’4, 93-98lbs. I do have endometriosis, I’m not sure to what extent as this diagnosis was a long time ago (I’ve suffered extreme pain and other symptoms since I was 10), and I’m not sure if/how this could possibly affect a pregnancy.
My mother and future mother in law suggested I try to gain weight, but whatever I put on always melts when I so much as *think* about exercise. My doctor always told me that despite being "underweight" for my height, I’m perfectly healthy. I’ve never had an eating disorder.
I quit smoking when I got pregnant for the first time, I’ve kept my drinking to a minimum (a glass of wine every now and then), and do not use any drugs. I’ve never had any addictions aside from smoking. I am not on any medication.
I’ve always eaten healthy. I cook my own food and very rarely eat junk or fast food. It’s just the way I was raised. I danced for 15 years and am in excellent physical shape. I still exercise on a weekly basis in addition to my job which requires me to be on my feet running back and forth with children for hours on end.
My fiance and I time our "bedroom times" around when I should be most likely to conceive. My cycle is exactly 28 days and has never varied from the first time I got it. It even comes at the same time of the day every month! We aim for the 12th-16th days of the cycle, which I was told is the best time. I lay still for at least 10 minutes afterwards, not sure if this is an old wives tale or what but I’m willing to try anything. :/
Ever since my last miscarriage, I have not had a single test come up as positive. I don’t know what else I could possibly do. I’m getting to the end of my rope here. I’m stressed, losing sleep. I don’t know what to do and I’m very afraid of either losing another one, or worse, never conceiving again. I feel like I’m too young to have this type of issue!
I haven’t been to a doctor in quite a while, and I’m very apprehensive about seeing one for this. If no other options exist however, I have no choice. What kind of foods, any tips or tricks that could be useful. Tell me anything that has worked. Or if there are any girls who have been through this at my age, do you have any helpful hints or insights? Anything that can help me cope or make this happen.
I’m welcoming any ideas here, so if you have even the smallest bit of info *please* post it!!