How would you tell her? directly, indirectly.
Let’s face it, women do tend to put weight on, after they marry. As they believe they do not have to attract a partner any longer, so you stop taking care of yourself. Girls, honestly, do not do that, or we men will start to gaze at other women (God forbid) and may just go astray. Maintain your fine figures.
Some women cook great foods for their husbands, that’s all really good. But you should not repeat richest meals and the creamiest desserts every day if you do not want to see your waist line increasing.
And finally when pregnancy is knocking the door, you overeat during pregnancy and become too inactive, believing that you need to eat a lot more than you actually do and also you slow down and relax more than you should. And the sudden hankering for special foods during this time only multiples the problem. Once you deliver the child, you stay at home putting the needs of your child and family before your own. Keep a close look on your weight gain during this period of time. If you gain more fat, you can have complexities during your child birth. Do light exercises as recommended by the doctor and eat healthy but DO NOT overeat. Men don’t like fat women.
HaN, I have not asked this question before, I’ve asked a similar one http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Asz90AmS3uICHt.rR_eFR4zty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100327192812AAVxB5a
Lol Zubayr, yeah, that’s a classic, when girls say "I’m not fat, just big boned" … wtf is that. Ha.
Ahmad - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
srsly man leave the girls alone. why dont you straight your own wife yourself? i know how i wil deal with mine. and beauty is in hte beholders eye. if you love someone you dont carewether they are fat or not.
anyways see you
PIECES!!!!
♥HaNiFaIsSwEeT♥ - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
I think you’ve asked this ridiculous question before.
Women don’t like fat men either.
Over and out.
@Paki: I don’t even need to explain myself to you, don’t find it necessary
Zubayr - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
Good advice for the sisters
thanks
Sαj :) - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
I could kill you right now. Men tend to look more pregnant before their wives do.
Nawab - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
" Maray abu ami co boltay thay eat eat but " if u gain too much weight" kala kuta tumharay peechay laga doon ga" who will solve my problemo,HAHAHAAAAAAAAA May be husbands should try it out to make their wife run,lolz.
Rosy Pearl - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
LOL
Women in My Family Get Even PRETTIER After Marriage!
It is their ‘Goal’ to Get better and better everyday…
So your Idea of Women = Not True
lol
Lili - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
Ok , but the husband must support , understand and help the wife , so she will fell loved and ty to always look good for him.
Maryem Amatullah - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
A man shouldnt be so shallow and care about the shape of her body, its the beauty of her imaan and the beauty of her soul that counts.
If everyone was so judgemental nobody on earth would be married.
Ms. Rather Unique™ - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
Lol was this supposed to be inspirational?
Mashallah, I guess your intentions were correct, as the woman should beautify herself for her husband and maintain her figure. But the weight gain caused by pregnancy I would assume is extremely hard to shed, so please, be cautious of what you say.
And some men do like women with some weight….don’t let this American concept of "beautiful" fool you. So many countries worldwide like Mauritania dig bigger women.
Anyways, I’m not a guy so I can’t answer your question. But the wife should be told indirectly. The husband is to treat his wife with the utmost care and affection, and telling her that her figure is not doing it is not exactly the best approach…
And Allah Knows Best
> - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
LOL and you think you’re gonna keep your fake 6-pac for long?
dream on; stupid PUNK.
Un D - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
I haven’t read all the details, but if my husband started letting himself go to the point where I actually noticed (I never notice when family members lose/gain weight or change their hair) then I’d buy a scale keep it in the bathroom and weigh myself and whine a bit about my weight, he’ll probably take a hint. Or maybe I’ll tell him we should start eating healthier, etc. My first instinct was to say "I’d tell him directly" but I wouldn’t want to hurt him.
Snapdragon - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
You are incredibly shallow.
* Nosh * - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
* passing by *
. Ouch… ( comments )
Leaves…
Esra - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
Where i come from it’s the men who let their tommy walk infront of them after marriage ..
and who said men don’t like fat women? in my country they actually love it..
and when women get pregnant their bodu changes..stop being a jerk..you go have a baby/get pregnant/let that tommy stretch and hormones increase if you don’t want her to get fat after giving birth..then lets see your wife commenting on how FAT and how she rather wants to look at other guys after u gave her a child
god help who’ll marry you..seriously..that what crossed my mind
Pam - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
Well Im going to answer this even though I dont like you. Yes u are shallow and it appears you want an empty headed bimbo for wife, Im curious, does she whistle when the wind blows between her ears.
But to answer your question, the female should keep herself attractive for the husband, yes, because man is moved by sight. But firstly, she should do it for herself. Weight gain causes health problems. But remember this men, your treatment of the female can effect the mental state of her and cause her to turn to "comfort food"
So the fault could actually be yours. About 15 yrs ago I too got a little chunky, not obese or even fat, just chunky as to say "one to many curves, lol" then my husband started the complaining and nagging about my weight instead of being supportive and trying to help me lose it,. so I turned to the comfort food and gained a little more. Only when I realized that I am hurting myself that I pushed the plate away, I dropped the pounds and I feel better now physicaly. The only reason I will not allow weight gain is for my health not his pleasure. But the man gains from it also because he has a fit wife. So be nice to your wife and help her instead of complaining especially during pregnancy.
Susan سوزان - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
My mom has had 9 kids including me and she’s not fat……and she’s still so pretty mashallah.
I pity your future wife….you’ll probably make her go anorexic during pregnancy.
Iii Am Ur Sunshine..x - said
December 3 2010 @ 13:32
If i was infront of you right now id slap you so hard for being SO DAMN SHALLOW !!!
:@ !!
Havent you got a brain ?!
i Hope you loose all that ‘beautiful body’ and become obese when your married and see if your wife ( if you get one that is ) starts ‘looking’ at other men and then you will realise what a huge stupid mistake you have made for marrying such a hollow being .